Your Life, Your Rules
The Art of Setting Boundaries
Fourth book · Patrick Lussier
Saying no isn't being harsh. It's being clear.
In this fourth book, I speak to the women (and men) who learned to say yes by reflex, and who feel that something has to change.
This isn’t another self-assertion handbook. It’s a practical companion to take back the wheel of your life, one no at a time. Seven forms of no. A map of your relationships. Concrete phrasings. A solid framework (the -1 / 0 / +1 system, the Karpman triangle) to understand why you burn out and how to find your way out.
English edition coming soon. The French edition is available now — same content, same tools.
The reader's toolbox
The book comes with two interactive resources to move from reading to action.
📋 Practical tools and appendices
The seven forms of the adaptive no, the map of your relationships, a self-check grid, and a repertoire of go-to phrasings for the hard conversations.
📚 Theoretical framework
The -1 / 0 / +1 system to map your relationships, and the Karpman triangle (Rescuer, Victim, Persecutor) to understand how you trap yourself without realising it, and how to step out.
The book's audio companions
An anthem song, a mantra to breathe, and a guided meditation in three acts — composed in echo of the book to support your daily practice.